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EPISODE FILE 003 / COSTS: RELATIONSHIPS

You Taught Everyone to Use You

How doing all the work in a relationship can turn usefulness into a substitute for intimacy, and why chosen generosity needs limits.

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  1. 1The instructionBecome needed by everyone. Never ask for help.
  2. 2Why it feels safeBeing useful can feel like being valued and make rejection seem less likely.
  3. 3What it costsConstant sacrifice can replace closeness with dependence.
  4. 4The correctionBe generous by choice, not as the price of belonging.
  5. 5Your 24-hour testPause before one automatic yes and decide what you are actually willing to give.

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